Bid’ah Dalam Pernikahan

Posted in Islam on November 8, 2009 by tomandtyke

Bid’ah adalah sesuatu yang mengada-ada, yang tidak ada di hadits atau Al Qur’an. Sesuatu kegiatan tambahan yang tidak ada tuntunannya, yang bukan menambah pahala. Sesuatu yang bersifat bid’ah bisa membawa kepada kemusyrikkan.

Islam itu mudah. Janganlah kau persulit hidupmu dengan sesuatu yang tidak ada tuntunannya di dalam Alqur’an dan Hadits. Nikah itu mudah. Tapi masyrakat kita masih saja mempersulitnya dengan mewajibkan melakukan ritual adat yang lumayan ribet.  Contohnya di dalam adat pernikahan jawa, ada posesi adat siraman, pecah kendi, dan lain sebagainya. Begitu pula dengan adat lain. Banyak posesi adat yang sebenarnya tidak ada di dalam AlQur’an dan Assunah, tapi toh tetap dilakukan dengan berbagai alasan seperti kekhawatiran akan terjadi sesuatu yang buruk jika posesi adat tidak dilaksanakan. Padahal jika kita sudah menggantungkan hidup kita pada Allah SWT, dan melaksanakan apa yang diperintahkannya, maka tak perlu kita takut atau khawatir atas segala sesuatu yang akan menimpa kita.

Berikut ini saya kutip dari sebuah website mengenai posesi pernikahan adat jawa: Bapak dan Ibu CMW melakukan pengguntingan rambut CMW dan ditanam di halaman depan rumah

Padahal di dalam Islam tidak ada kewajiban, sunnah, atau anjuran memotong rambut dalam rangka pernikahan dan menanam rambut di halaman depan rumah. Ada yang berkilah “tak apalah kita melakukan posesi ini toh untuk formalitas aja”.

Jika untuk sekedar formalitas saja, bukankah lebih baik kita simpan waktu dan tenaga untuk hal lain yang lebih berguna? Apakah tujuan dari memotong rambut dan menanam rambut di halaman rumah? Apakah Rasulullah pernah melakukannya? Apakah hal itu ada di AlQur’an? Dalam melakukan segala sesuatu, kita harus berniat untuk Allah Ta’ala dan meminta pada Allah dengan tuntunan yang benar.

Saya sendiri cukup menghargai adat budaya kita. Tetapi bagi yang sudah beragama Islam, sebaiknya bid’ah-bid’ah itu ditinggalkan. Wallahu A’lam

Ryuichi Sakamoto

Posted in Personal on October 31, 2009 by tomandtyke

I just found his master piece on a piano cd collection.

Merry Christmas Mr. Lawrence is the most beautiful one. Very outstanding, wonderfull… Actually the song is repetitive, but he plays it beautifully and wonderfull… as if we were brought into a japanese world. peaceful thought.  as if we were having  a candle light dinner with someone we love. as if we were in a field of sakura trees, watching their blossom.

click to play the video.

Monday Quote

Posted in Islam on September 21, 2009 by tomandtyke

Segala sesuatunya terjadi atas kehendak Allah, dan sudah diatur olehNYA. Janganlah kamu meminta untuk disegerakan.

Missing Supporting Document

Posted in Audit on September 21, 2009 by tomandtyke

Just read the CFE (Certified Fraud Examiner) Magazine.

Missing sup doc is a red flag. When we take sampling and found that some transactions are not supported with documents, we cannot forget it and drive on (FIDO). We have to question why the sup doc is not available.

Common reasons answered why the sup doc is not there:

  • It was approved by director’/owner directly.
  • It was director/owner’s personal expense.
  • It was kept by accounting personnel who have resigned.
  • It was moved by someone else whom we don’t know.
  • The filing is messy and scattered. Maybe it is kept somewhere else.
  • We forget where we put it.

The substitution of sampling with other transactions with similar account  but have sup. doc should be questioned with professional skeptiscm.

RI Quote

Posted in Audit on September 19, 2009 by tomandtyke

“Revenue recognition is the most important part in audit. Our assumption is that client’s revenue recognition is wrong. So we have to find valid  evidence or any fact to provide reasonable assurance that the revenue recognition is not wrong.”

Roy Iman – Price Waterhouse Coopers.

Quotes of The Day

Posted in Islam on September 14, 2009 by tomandtyke

Libatkan Allah dalam segala urusan, istikharahlah.

Tell Me Baby – NSYNC Lyric

Posted in Hip Hop Rhyme, Personal on September 6, 2009 by tomandtyke

Oh oh Hold on Ah you know what? Can we back it up just a little bit? (rewinding noises, various vocal sounds) I said why, I said why, (why)..

Tell me, tell me, tell me, tell me.. Oh, oh, yeah..…

We were born the same day We even think the same way It couldn’t be more right We are what they call a perfect match It’s something that you can’t touch Down to the last bone, you’re my baby

But to be honest There’s just one thing A part that is missing You don’t seem to care at all

Tell me, tell me, baby How come you don’t wanna love me Don’t you know that I can’t breathe without you

Tell me, tell me, just how What am I supposed to do right now Why can’t you love me? Why-y, tell me, my baby

Now from the moment we met I thought that I was all set How could I be so wrong Now I’m hearing that you’re seeing someone new And I wanna know who But does he love you love like I do? You’re my baby

But I promise you this one thing Whatever that’s missing I will make it up to you So tell me baby

Tell me, tell me, baby How come you don’t wanna love me Don’t you know that I can’t breathe without you Tell me, tell me, just how What am I supposed to do right now Why can’t you love me? Why-y, tell me, my baby

 You’re getting under my skin You’re messing up with my mind You’re never letting me into your life Tell me baby how come you don’t you wanna love me And am I supposed to live without?

If there is no way to make you feel the same way too Oh you… Tell me, tell me, tell me, tell me

We were born the same day We even think the same way We are what they all call a perfect match Tell me baby How come you don’t wanna love me Don’t you know that I can’t breathe without you

Tell me, tell me, just how What am I supposed to do right now? Why can’t you love me? Tell me, baby Tell me, tell me, baby How come you don’t wanna love me Don’t you know that I can’t breathe without you

Tell me, tell me, just how What am I supposed to do right now Why can’t you love me? Why-y, tell me, my baby Tell me, tell me, tell me, why Tell me, tell me, tell me, yeah Tell me, tell me, tell me.. yeah I said, tell, me, baby. Tell me, tell me, tell me, yeah, Tell me, tell me, tell me, yeah.

Curhat ke Mamah Dedeh – Book Review

Posted in Islam on June 14, 2009 by tomandtyke
Curhat ke Mamah Dedeh

Curhat ke Mamah Dedeh

Buku ini berisi tanya jawab antara Mamah Dedeh (penceramah agama Islam ternama) dengan para penanya atas berbagai persoalan kehidupan, terutama persoalan rumah tangga.  Mulai dari masalah suami yang “hobi” berselingkuh, poligami, istri yang suka dugem, bahkan hingga persoalan fiqih sehari-hari. Semua dijawab oleh Mamah Dedeh berdasarkan Alqur’an dan Hadits dengan bahasa yang mudah dipahami, lugas, blak-blakan tanpa menyinggung perasaan.

Yang paling saya suka dari buku ini adalah nama penanya tidak dimunculkan sehingga aibnya tertutupi. Mamah Dedeh menganjurkan kita lebih banyak berpikir ke depan dan tidak mengambil keputusan untuk jangka pendek. Dari jawaban-jawaban yang beliau berikan, beliau senantiasa menganjurkan agar kita mengandalkan Allah dalam segala urusan. Maksudnya, sebelum mengambil keputusan kita harus lihat dulu apakah Allah ridha atau tidak. Jika Allah tidak ridha atas keputusan yang akan kita ambil, maka janganlah mengambil keputusan itu. Segala sesuatu yang menggelisahkan hati itu adalah dosa dan menjaukan diri dari ridha Allah. Segala sesuatu yang merusak diri sendiri adalah dosa dan bikin jauh dari ridha Allah. Carilah keridhaan Allah, niscaya hati tentram senantiasa. Jika inginkan keluarga sakinah (tentram), dan diberkahi Allah, maka sandarkan Allah dalam segala urusan. Mulakan segalanya dengan bismillah.

Professional Judgment

Posted in Audit on June 8, 2009 by tomandtyke

You’ve heard this words many times in accounting ethic standard books. But sometimes you have no idea what it is or how to use it. Well… professional judgment is how you make decision derrived from your professional education, training, and experience. Some says it equals to sixth sense. For me, it’s how you get the big picture. It’s logical. Nothing dealt with sixth sense. When you’re facing with anomalies, the non-sense thing may looks logical. But when you see it from the 360 degrees view, you’ll know that it’s a red flag.

However, not  everyone knows how to use the professional judgment. Maybe sometimes our professional judgment has reminded us about the red flag but we tend to ignore it due to other distracting thoughts. That will make us not aware of what we’re facing with.

To maximize your professional judgment, you have to stay focused. Have a clear mind, don’t let personal feelings or personal biased distract you. Stay healthy, do some sport, eat nutritious food, grab some good books, avoid unnecessary activities. Don’t let yourself get sick. You have to stay healthy to get a clear mind.  Get some training, and jump to the river. I mean, you have to practice yourself using your professional judgment in every phase of engagement. If you never use it, you’ll never sharpen it.

Remember: stay focused, clear mind, maintain yourself healthy, get some knowledge, and See the BIG picture.

Reasons Why Auditor Cannot Detect Financial Statement Fraud

Posted in Audit with tags , on May 20, 2009 by tomandtyke
  1. Scope Limitation, this include prohibition in doing corroborative inquiry, limitation  of access to required data
  2. Auditor lack of professional skeptism
  3. Auditor may choose the wrong sample
  4. Auditor is having lack of accounting knowledge
  5. Auditor is having lack of experience
  6. Lack of audit trail
  7. The evidence is seemed to be true (falsified evidence)

if u need further explanation, please email me alfri_n at yahoo.com